Pat drove to the treatment center, anxiety gnawing at her insides. “I was excited to see my husband and riddled with fear at the same time. When we spent time together, I could feel the tension and disconnect vibrating between us.”
Living with someone who suffers from substance use disorder creates an emotional burden that drains peace and calm from your life. Pat isn’t alone – families often experience fear, worry, shame, and guilt alongside their loved ones. Like many others, Pat wanted to know: “How do I find peace?”
The support of a family recovery specialist can significantly lower stress levels and help restore peace. At Facilitate Connection, Kelly’s personalized Family Recovery Life Coaching begins with your story. “What you’re experiencing is important to me,” Kelly affirms.
Family recovery education offers an immediate shift in perspective. Many families come to us having tried various methods without success. The BALM (Be A Loving Mirror) Family Recovery curriculum provides a clear framework through the BALM 7C’s:
– You didn’t cause it
– You can’t control it
– You can’t cure it
– You can contribute to recovery
– You are connected deeper than the disease
– You can learn to communicate effectively
– You are always at choice
Jim and Leslie faced a common dilemma when friends suggested changing their locks to keep their son from crashing on their sofa. This felt unloving to them, adding stress about not being “tough enough.” After discovering the BALM 7C’s through Facilitate Connection, everything changed.
“We were looking for answers to help lower our stress,” Jim shared. The presentation helped them understand that substance use disorder is a disease they can’t cure. “It’s the disease that’s active in his life. We don’t have to pull everything out from under him trying to force a dangerous rock bottom.”
Leslie added, “I felt my shoulders relax for the first time in months.”
Understanding the BALM 7C’s helps families:
– See their loved one as a person, not a diagnosis
– Recognize their own contributions
– Communicate calmly and effectively
– Make choices that support recovery
– Maintain their deeper connection
Pat experienced this transformation firsthand during a treatment center family session. When learning about the connection principle, she felt the tension with her husband shift. Understanding their bond was deeper than his diagnosis brought immediate peace.
*Names and specific details have been changed to protect confidentiality.*
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